“SOS” Revisited
Published by Toni December 20th, 2005 in Uncategorized.UPDATE: All right, comments are now closed for this post and the original one. If these guys won’t show any respect, then I don’t have to read their insults.
I did a little reading on that Model Minority website. While the basic premise is a good and noble idea -promoting Asian American awareness and whatnot- unfortunately, a lot of its members are nothing more than a bunch of angry, militant racist Asians. Many spew a lot of hatred against White people and against Western society in general; they certainly have no respect for a lot of the Asian American female commenters. Whenever some poor girl tries to question something, she gets called a sellout whore.
There are a lot of good articles and stories on this website, and there are some members who make insightful comments. Unfortunately there are a lot of bad apples that ruin the bunch.
Nothing I say will change their mind. They will always think of me and other Asian women who date White men as sellouts. If they want to think that way, fine. It’s therefore pointless to let this go on so I’m ending it. I don’t care if they want to continue talking about it on their own forums- that’s their choice. Have fun boys.
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Wow…I think I’ve pissed off a couple of Asian guys.
The strange thing is that it’s from a post I wrote a few months ago. I don’t know how they stumbled upon it, but they are quite unhappy about it.
I wrote about how some Asian girls are considered “S.O.S”s (Sell Out Sisters) because they choose to date or marry someone not Asian; specifically, a White man. This term seems to often be used by Asian males, who are the most threatened by the Asian female-White male relationship.
I said in the post that I didn’t think it was fair for Asian guys to call women like me “sellouts” just because we’re not dating Asian men. I explained that race or ethnicity doesn’t determine who I consider attractive. I added that yes, I do tend to be attracted more towards White men, BUT it doesn’t mean that I think every White guy I see is cute. There are lots and lots of unattractive White guys out there, not just in appearance but in personality. Personality is important to me. I don’t care if the guy is really hot and brainy; if he’s boring or is a complete jerk, then forget it.
The way that the comments are phrased, I guess someone found my post and then linked to it on the forums of this website called Model Minority, a website dedicated to “Asian American Empowerment”. You have to be a member to view the forums, but I’ll bet that a lot of the Asian men there are talking shit about me.
They called me an SOS, a racist, a hypocrite, pathetic, and a “clueless media brainwashed victim”. Wow. That’s a lot of anger.
This guy in particular is especially peeved. Check out his comment:
THIS GOES OUT TO ALL MY ASIAN BROTHERS; Start dating out, not just White females.. go for black, indian, hispanic. Dont do it out of malice and revenge.. do it because its your GOD GIVEN RIGHT! AND if an AF or WM makes fun of us asian men and puts us down, then retaliate with force; yell at talk shit infront of the AF and rip the WMs heart out and shove it down his throat. AFs dating/married to WM are a lost cause, there’s no use in rehabilitating them.. you might as well verbally burn them at the stake!
Us asian men have been known to NOT stand up for what we believe, NOT to take initiative, NOT to be vocal and open… well times have changed.. and we’re gonna scare the living DAYLIGHTS out of these SOS hoes and their pasty white devils.
Pissed off, isn’t he?
Oh wait, he’s not done. He’s also mad at Catholics. This is his comment from a post I made about the Pope passing away:
What so sad? Isnt the point of earthly death a mere transition from this life into the “greater†life? I dont know why people cry for such a great man at his death because he’s “supposively†with his Father in heaven. Real sorrow should be his suffering, not his death. Other than that, Catholicism is just one big cult which enslaved and stripped cultural identity of many cultures; especially the Filipinos; worshiping a statue of a white jew is just sick.
I’m really not sure how to respond to these comments. My bf (YES, one of those “Pasty White Devils” whose “heart should be ripped out and shoved down his throat”) advised me to just ignore it completely. He didn’t even want me writing this post. At the same time I can’t let these people come here to my blog and openly insult me and call me names. That’s not right. You can disagree with someone, but you don’t have to be an asshole.
Yes, they obviously have very strong feelings about the issue, and that some of them have has negative personal experiences with some Asian girls. But that is no excuse for being rude and disrespectful.
The interesting part was after the angry comments, another Asian guy comes in and, contrary to the guys before him, says that he doesn’t like Asian girls and prefers Latinas and White girls. Does this make him a SOB (Sell Out Brother)? A racist? A brainwashed victim of the evil White Demon Media?
Well, at least the post brought some traffic to my blog. What’s that famous saying? “Bad publicity is better than no publicity”. Besides, they brought a very different perspective from most of the early posters, who were a lot more open minded and accepting of interracial relationships.
Asian American, White, Asian, sellout, SOS, race, ethnicity, preference, identity, interracial relationships
I remember the post.
See? You gotta hang white.
Well, I guess I see both sides, since I am neither “White” nor Asian. If you like “White” guys, you should be able to do your thing. But it won’t stop Asians, especially Asian-American men from being angry. You keep talking about boring guys. It’s like you speak in code. . .Asian males are boring.
If you think Asian-American men are boring, why not just say so? Why not just talk about what your experience has been and explain why you don’t like them. I think what you will find is that some people who are complaining will at least be able to see what you are talking about.
Perhaps you are just not into this thing called Asian-American Culture.
http://www.asianamericancc.com/
Oh. . .I apologize. I needed to add something. You state in your article that it is open-minded to date outside of your “race”? Whatever that means.
I just want to give you something to think about. If I refused to date any female in my community. . .that would make me as close-minded as any insane racist that has ever lived in this country. To rely on stereotypes to guide my dating habits is bad. Whether I date inside my community or outside. But if you do, that’s on you. I can’t hate you for that.
Do your thing. . .but others will feel free to do their thing too.
Gotta go!!!
interracial relationships
= your definition means ONLY WHITE
quote from asian FEMALE:
“That’s what I don’t understand about ppl who say race doesn’t matter yet they have preferences. Your preferences show that race does matter! And honestly, most ppl have preferences. If ppl want to use animals and food as an example, that’s like me saying I like all kinds of fruits..fruit is fruit to me but I eat pineapples 90% of the time and prefer it over all fruits though all kinds are available to me. Therefore, taste/texture/appearances do matter to me.”
Now you are obsessed with that guy because he dates XF? Wow, what a robot-like, unemotional hypocrite you are.
Beautiful Russian women prefer Asian men over White American men. Its because Genghis Khan and Asian sperm made so many beautiful white women happy, by making the countries of Turkey, Hungary, etc… comprised of children of Asian studs and beautiful white girls.
Lets face it, Russian women are smarter and more beautiful than you will ever be. Just look how smart they are in the choices they make. People are the choices they make in life. So don’t hate on Russian girls for being smarter than you.
bug- You are too funny.
Draconisz- First of all, you misinterpreted my words. Speak in code? What are you talking about? NO, Asian DOES NOT mean boring. Please don’t put words in my mouth.
Second, why does it mean that dating someone not Asian means I’m “not into Asian American culture”? You said you’re not Asian,
Third, I DON’T rely on stereotypes to guide my dating habits. That’s the point I’m trying to make. I’m saying that everyone has certain preferences, and to judge someone on those preferences is unfair. Some people prefer those in the same profession as them. Others don’t care. Some prefer people with the same religion. Others don’t mind.
Yes, you’re right. Some Asian men will be angry no matter what, and that’s their right. There’s probably nothing anyone can say to convince them otherwise. But if people call me names and accuse me of being a sellout or whatever, then I have every right to get angry as well.
^ Are you ugly or adopted? I guess you had no choice then but to date white.
“I’m saying that everyone has certain preferences, and to judge someone on those preferences is unfair”
YOUR quote^
YOUR PREVIOUS quote:http://www.kaonashigasuki.com/?p=114
“Yes, I tend to like White guys more than Asian guys. So what? I tend to find them more attractive. They’re my type. It doesn’t mean that I won’t go out with a guy just because he’s Asian; it just so happens that my attraction is towards White guys.”
Whats wrong with an ASIAN guy promoting empowerment for his asian brothers? I dont see ASIAN WOMEN doing it.
To the original poster, you are nothing but a joke. You contradicted yourself many times and failed to see it, as pointed out by other posters.
It’s funny how you singled out only the Asian males, who also happened to be the target of your earlier post while ignoring otheres that’ve pointed out on your contradictions.
I don’t have a problem with IR. People can date whoever they want but I do have have a problem with ppl who believe white is right, in this case, you.
Again with the putting words in my mouth. I never said that “white is right”.
I’ve singled out Asian men? I don’t think so. On the contrary, it’s certain Asian men who have singled out Asian women as “sellouts”. Why? because they chose to date someone White?
Surprisingly, there are a lot of Asian men out there who don’t care who Asian women date. They don’t get pissed off and offended when they see an Asian woman and a White man. It’s their life. But those who are upset about that sort of thing target those Asian women as sellouts. Why? Because they didn’t want to go out with you? Who cares? Why don’t you just ask out someone else?
You all question me about my preferences. As I said before, I would go out with anyone of any ethnic background, but it happens that I tend to prefer White men. It doesn’t mean that I don’t like everyone else. I don’t see how that makes me “racist” or a “sellout”. My Mexican American boss married an African American man. Does that make her a sellout? Does it make him a sellout? My male cousin married a white woman. He dated many kinds of women all his life but happened to end up with a white woman. Is he a sellout too? Is she a sellout to her race?
My preferences are my own. Disagree with it if you will, that’s your choice. But you have no right to say that my preferences are somehow wrong. You all have your preferences too, but I don’t question or judge them.
I was hoping that this would be a more mature, respectful, and intelligent conversation. But many of you are so blinded by your anger and prejudice that all you can do is insult me.
Thanks all of you for stopping by though. You’ve given me a lot of traffic and have shown me a different perspective to this situation.
I have no problem with your preferences. Matter of fact, most of the girls I’ve dated have been white and a mixed of other races. I could care less who you date.
What irks me is how you claimed to be colorblind only to go on and write such statement below.
“Yes, I tend to like White guys more than Asian guys. So what? I tend to find them more attractive. They’re my type. It doesn’t mean that I won’t go out with a guy just because he’s Asian; it just so happens that my attraction is towards White guys.â€
We are not attacking your preferences or at least I’m not. I am attacking your statement.
“I was hoping that this would be a more mature, respectful, and intelligent conversation. But many of you are so blinded by your anger and prejudice that all you can do is insult me.”
We are pointing you out on your contradictions and you resorted to playing the victim While some of the things said by certain posters are uncalled for, I do think you should reread what you wrote.
Once again, I have no problem with your preference, my partner is white but why is it girls like you always felt the need to proclaim your love for X while denigrating the other half all the while claiming to be “colorblind.” Believe me, I’ve came across plenty like you and it makes you wonder….
I am dating IR but never once did I ever felt the need to write some of the things you’ve written or trash my other half. I am comfortable with who I am and who I am with.
Maybe one day you’ll get there too.
First of all, I never trashed Asian men. When did I ever say anything negative about Asian men? This is another example of putting words in my mouth. In fact, looking from these comments in this post and in my previous post, these particular Asian men are trashing Asian women.
Second, I will reiterate that just because I have a certain preference for a certain type of person doesn’t mean that I will close my mind off everyone else. I don’t understand how that is a contradiction.
Third, wouldn’t it be considered racist if I chose to just date Asian men? Or more specifically, if I just dated Filipino men?
You know what’s funny is that all of the early commenters (save for one) back in April understood what I said. They didn’t see a contradiction. They weren’t offended. They were also POLITE and RESPECTFUL. Oh that’s right. Most of them were women who had dated a white man at some point. They must be sellouts too.
ugh, you r talking to a sell out.there is no way she could ever change that.thats their mindset.they will defend with so many impossible reasons.She hasnt even explained to me why her statements were inconsistend in the previous msg…..meh..
Bernad- Are you blind? Can you read? You must be either one of those things since you don’t seem to understand what I’m trying to say. I’ve said it over and over. It’s NOT an inconsistency.
Tell me this, all of you. Think of your friends. Some of them are from work, some from school, maybe some you know through your family. You more or less like all these people, right? BUT…don’t you prefer hanging out with some people more than others? Maybe it’s because you have more in common, or maybe it’s because you’ve known each other longer. Does that mean that you don’t like your other friends? Does that mean that you ONLY perfer say, school friends over the kids you hang out with in your neighborhood? Does this mean that you’re betraying your other friends?